Share!!!

I grew up in a middle class family, where my mom was stay at home with three kids, typical three kids of a middle class family  two girls and voila then a boy and I seriously don't blame my mother for that  but I did myself for that.  Niki not a very beautiful girl of the family may be or may be not. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Niki dreams as big as sky- she wanted to be a very good classical dancer, she wanted to make her mark in sports. None of which my parents thought was as important then getting good ranks on report card.  I am not blaming my parents for that , this is what it is during our time from part of our society. Till date not on those ideal days, my parents think I  am very spoilt. 

I sometime wonder, with all what I experienced (not all mentioned!!)  how could I have done it and be where I am today.

I had a very strong support system it was my friends. We shared  our dreams together, we shared  our aspirations, we shared our weaknesses, we shared our lack of funds or envying those  so called well off students of the class whose driver used to pick up from school,  we shared and shared.

I was bullied, I was not  one of the cool girls in the class there was nothing about me that was cool at that time  but then  I had someone who stood by me always, that someone cried for me to be her best friend (vice-versa)  or that someone  wanted me to be around her. I sometimes ignored her and sometimes loved her so much by making up for it  but she never left me  and stood by me vice-versa. I have good memories and memories  there are no such thing as bad memories. Good memories  makes me smile and cherish. Other makes me think how to grow out of odds.

Now I am in that phase of life surrounded with people , mother of  a  3.5  year old surrounded with social dinners ,play dates, birthday parties, career oriented, busy is  a way of living. I am in a era where people  have more friends on social networking site then they even can remember the names. We like to text more then even picking up the phone to talk. We just don't meet up we plan and make an appointment for dinner.  

Rather laughing our heart out we will post LOL,  we talk, talk and talk about movies , serials season but we don't share. It has become our second nature to not have anyone "tangibly"  involved in our lives but to judge others if we know their shades.  I am not sure where we are heading to with this.

Ironically, we find friends  and company for our kids so that they have companion to grow up with and they learn from each other, we try to find and have kids of same frequency , we go to an extent when we even plan babies around  it and of course naturally when our children  grow into big boys and big girl they are not born with insecurities  from their friends, for them growing  is having fun  with their friends  and learning from each other .

I am not sure if would stay same when those same big girls and big boys becomes as grown ups.

 So next time when you decide to judge someone  or feel insecure to keep things to yourself remember you will be passing this baton to your shadow some way. Happiness increases by sharing  and sharing your doubts or grieves definitely gets a vent. Don't be scared to who judge, as they don't know what it is like realizing their own dreams. Have light  of sharing  to make your dreams  into reality.

I know I wouldn't have been here where I am now if I didn't have that support system of sharing  and made a friend for life time and I till  date believe in that and thank her for that.

I have still miles to go to make a mark for myself or may be for someone out there and give the baton of sharing to the next volume of this book …

To Be Continued …