HHHHaaappppyyyyyyyy....

I was wondering we all in this world is seeking happiness, so thoughts of what would give someone that happiness. Happiness is so vague, generic term.
When God must be creating this emotion he must be having a good brainstorming session and then he couldn't come to some conclusion and he didn't have any choice but left is on the species itself.

For me what would happiness defines...
Shopping (naa...), dressing up, being with the family, reading a nice excerpt, watching a nice movie, having good time with friends, eating sumptuous food, spending time or playing with kids, babies, flowing water, beach, mountains,music,dance, playing, getting a nice well placed job,working really hard then finally getting what you were working for,birthday... actually list is endless.
There are so many choices then why people cann't find one among so many choices.
There are still unhappy, pain, miseries are part of them if not that to extreme, still that spark that excitement is missing and every day a new is missing we dont get up with something we look forward to, or with a smile on our face when we are out to walk.
These choices lies within us when even god left it on us, I think that is why human ages ago made festivals like
Halloween, Deepawali, Guru Purav and many more.
Deepawali, halloween , or gurupurav to increase the list count to be happy about, not that playing with family and kids or flowing water not at par with these.
These festivals are an effort to keep us on common consensus to be happy together and spread it all around by lighting diya, or may be dressing up or eating together and sharing that special time.

So may this time of festivities brings you lot of happiness to share with friends and family.
I wish and pray on these festivals, there are smiles and joys in your life.... and you spread the radiance of lights and happiness among all those around you...
Wishing you all HHHAAPPPPYYY Times Ahead!!!

Get Free!!!

One of the good things I have read today, and will add more to it...

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."

These days working out alot and spending money as always but my wedding website is keeping me busy most of the times when I am on my laptop and realised this social networking sites like orkut and others are killing me too making me almost useless... once I am done with that.
I am going to come back to this one for sure, as I have so many thoughts nagging on the same....

So
To be Continued...

PS:"The stupid neither forget and forgive, Naive forgive and forgets but wise forgives but don't forget”

Say Cheese!!!

One day I was wondering
No matter how our mood is and what we are doing we manage to smile right when the camera is in front of you... :)
Whether you would be able to see that picture again or not.

I belong to the lot who barely manage to smile it just stops at a point when I am posing or I know someone is taking my photo and I also know there are some hard memories behind that, but anyways those memories doesn't take my obsession with pictures I want as many pictures to be taken and I really want me in those too :).
Here I have an anecdote to remember which I read/saw long time back dont even remember when or how, A cute little girl was following her dad and the light was striking everytime she was stopping right at that moment and smiling back.
When the dad asked "Honey lets go fast it is about to rain and we really need to rush what is making you stop again and again".
She replied " OH really dad! I thought god is taking my picture"...

So here I am, I know Mr. God keep watching me up there with his adventures with a smile and with his camera on taking my pictures afcourse without fail I want to be present in all of those.
Still I am unable to smile to fullest in those.

So Say Cheesseee!!!! someone is capturing you up there.

Favor, Thank you ,Sorry

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This blog is one of the arbit one I wrote and this one goes for a friend I know and had a good time with some time back. She asked me a "favor" and the favor was to go through the site which I actually loved after looking at it (IF IT WAS FAVOR AT ALL) http://www.pqdvd.com/talkingphoto/blogit.html and I came to know something very interesting... so "thank you" for sharing it with me to see the demo go to website and "sorry" if this was not supposed to be put this way and sorry if this blog write up didnt have any meaning for its readers.
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I always wonder about few words and there magic and I have a strange connection with these three i.e. Favor, Thank you, Sorry...

If a stranger walk an extra mile. I remember those days when I used to travel with heavy suitcase across the corners of the country and when I was moving out someone whom I really donn't know (ONLY BEFORE THAT) helping me out with the luggage and to pull those a favor comes into play. but if my friend do something for me how can it be a favor she got my friendship commitment which is of so many joys together in return or if a known friend/person asked me to do something, I came to know something new or may be very interesting afcourse it is me who will decide whether I would like to do that but it doesnt strike if it would be considered a favor.

Next word that strike the bell for me is "Thank you", This one is one of the lovely words I know and among my list of favorites I like this word what so ever and would like to use as often as I can. I love to do so even with my friends, family, known whom so ever and trust me you would only know when you would start using how a simple thank you makes so much difference both in personal and professional worlds. Thanks for making it a special one to all the friends and be part of all the fun and joys you have given me, memories will always be forever.

The other one is "Sorry", for me I believe this word is highly misused. Most of the time it doesnt hurt to say words so we try to use whatever possible . Anyways out of all but sorry would be among the few I cherish saying but to be honest if I want to say this one I would say it with all my heart and make sure it makes a difference for me and to the person whom I am saying ( I would suggest the same on the whole too) Sorry , and it should be like wont repeat it again or atleast try to and I really mean it.

It is the Journey not the destination... I remember!!!!

After a long sabbatical, I feel like writing today.

As I lost something very valuable today... and nothing but only writing can help me recover from it... 

There are zillion thoughts nagging me and they all are cluttered and random.

So will write once I have something to shape 
>> To be Continued

Anyways 
I wish you a very good journey to an unknown you've never seen. 

Interesting WE!!!

You see, we humans are an interesting bunch. 

We value our independence and individuality, yet we are constantly striving to stay connected and the ways in which we interact with others are quite diverse.

We have distinct relationships with family members, friends, coworkers, casual acquaintances and even people we’ve never met.
Reaching out to friend through chats/scraps/blogs is not just an internet phenomenon, by the way some of you may have grown up with a pen pals.
I myself had a friend as a child, and no amount of therapy could break that special bond.
The moment I was with her,I was different my sense of humour would be at its best if others dont consider it she used to and she used to laugh on almost every statement I made.

This I wrote long time back for all the friends I shared my life with...

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Missing that someone who listen and smiles back, while I yapp, I crib, I complain.

Whatever I do she doesn't let me frown.

Friend O' Friend I miss you, I miss being with you.

I wish I was a bird and can fly away from here and come to you.

To say why weren't you there when I needed you the most. 

I know life is not a shopping paradise where I can buy what I want.

I know, if you were here, life would have been story to laugh upon

and tears to fall but still in the end it is all with you.

Do you feel the same as I do.

I miss you... Friend O' Friend...

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Anyways...
"It is said to stay happy, we shouldn't have expectations" FYI, I am feeling eternity today...

Rocket Science!!!!

Right after my undergrad, I joined a company.
With no or barely little knowledge of how stuff works types.
Always puzzled and amazed by how much people know and how much knowledgable they are.
I used to talk to one of my team senior guys who was more so like my mentor and any help on technical stuff I used to bank on him.
Whenever I was in AWW!!! of something like if someone knows something technical or not necessary technical ( egs I was amazed when I came to know my director knew how to drive a bobcat).
He used to tell me "So what it is not a Rocket Science"...
Those were the days I realised, actually all the things are difficult untill you give it a shot and after that same thing seems doable if not easy :).
Today if you are asked to do something new and you are nervous by how difficult things are and if you are amazed by how that person knows so much.
Only thing that should or may stop you would be inertia and your laziness of not digging.
Rest I am sure it is not a Rocket Science.

Just a thought!!!!

If you lead your life the right way your karma will take care of itself, your dreams will come to you - Randy Pausch
But - who decides the right way?
It lies within us ... isn't it.
>> In Continuation

Very dear friends of mine commented and they had their decisions :), Heart is the one which tell the right way and mind screws up stuff or may be heart and mind are same.
According to wiki thanks to sharad for a link of what wiki says on mind.
The line that captured my attention " "Mind" is often used to refer especially to the thought processes of reason" .
Lets put it this way :) our reasoning of things are the one which drives us, and our heart or mind agrees to it...
I may sound confusing again may be due to lack of sleep .. :) working overnight remotely on college machines.... my words may sound cliche stale or boring... still I want to complete this thought process.
My right way should always leads to happiness to me and others around me coming from heart or mind (Don't Care!!!).
In the end we have to decide and one always have some reasons to do things, whether it is logical ,rational (as per mind) , spiritually relieving or crazily fun (as per heart).
So if we have some reason to do that why not stay happy with it... :)
While chatting with one of my friend, He told me how to be "sukhi" (it means content)
He answered "It is simple stay happy".
Chose your right way no matter where it is coming from heart or mind.
You can try it, it is easy!!!


*** DISCLAIMER******
This is my random thought process, people who are finding it weird, forgive me and those not agreeing to me, I agree to yours I am sure you have your reason too!!!
Still my 2 cents try forget,forgive, ignore :)
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"Information Retreival"

Do you know there is another search engine that is coming up... and it claims it is better than Google and it is called kool spelled as "cuil".
Do you know what does R.S.V.P on the wedding cards mean?
Do you know at 32nm the supply voltage is just 1V? .
Do you know there is something coming up called third world?
and lot many other stuff like in a sec I can take out a cube root of a number? ... No I didn't know all the stuff but lot many other people knew whom I daily talk.... and then I also came to know.

Sometimes it is good to talk, make lot of friends and not hesitate in asking naive questions to random people and then may be you have a friend who proactively tells you and lot many other stuffs.
So what he /she thinks you are not aware of basic general knowledge or basic stuff.
It is never late to know something new ...and it can be on geography to general knowledge to technical to finances whatever it will be, it will be something new and more fun to know.

There is always just a one person behind that knowledge and ignorance.
So ignorant me keep meeting those knowledgable people almost every day.

It is fun try it out keep talking about anything which you want to know to anybody, I am sure you will realise you came to know something new which you didn't know before and you made a friend to discuss on more.
Best part is I also came to know that there is a term called "Information Retreival" for this and that too from a newly found friend :) and they have a course on the same in their school.
Interesting isn't it.

So Keep Talking, Keep Asking and Keep Learning!!!!

Today Tears are not stopping!!!!

I am sad, I am crying and idiot me not able to even stop myself and say to myself look someone died ... but he died happily.I dont know that person at all, I just heard his videos, I just read his book, he doesn't exist in my day to day life, No if he doesn't I cann't be so sad...he does exist in every bit of my life in my every day, his ideas are the one I want and trying to get in my day to day life, and they will live forever in so many lives.
Today Professor Randy Pausch died.
No words to type but so many thoughts as if someone has holded my heart tight.
http://www.cnn.com/2008/SHOWBIZ/books/07/25/obit.pausch/index.html

He told simple things in a more simpler way, which we keep forgetting in our day to day life.

Don't we know we shoud be making our people special... we do definitely.
Our parents, our other halfs,our kids, thanking our friends you made this possible but how many times we do it.
He kept on doing it whenever he got a chance. (simple isn't it )
How many times do we do in a week, month or an year ok b'days we do right :) why do we need to wait for b'days to do so... why can't every day be a celebration. Mentioning someone you are really important in my life doesn't cost too much but I can assure it will give that someone happiness, or a simple smile, or may be a blush.
I know I may sound confusing or may be redundant but why are these sooo simple things so confusing.

Why every day is alwys with the list of To dos and ranting on my days are long.
"Enjoy the Ride", Work can be fun too, in my childhood I used to play " office office ", I used to go to work with my fraud bag, and my sisters spectacles depicting I am very hardworking and studious geek. It was fun back then but now I keep hearing those terms like monday blues and yes another day or week started.

He just said as simple as it can be If you are not having fun you are not at the right place... :) you can be tired but still have fun... ( don't you get tired when you dance, or gym but still you are enjoying every bit of it).

Every day is special, every person who had some specific purpose in your life are special.
Make them feel special... it is ok if you are not too excited about "Mothers day or Valentines Day".Make your own days... :).
Let the person whom you are making special decide if he /she is enjoying or smiling a little on it or not.

Follow your passion and just enjoy the ride!!!! All the great guys, be it Gandhi, Pausch, Jobs etc etc said similar things, they have done that so they say, but still I wonder how we keep forgeting these simple things :(.

Make every day very special and live every day as today is the day you have lot to accomplish all the fun is today and all the work is today...

Let Randy Pausch!!! live in our lives...

Murphy Law!!!!

Out of all the laws ... After Newton's Law of Gravitation which drives the whole universe and Moore's Law which is all over my dissertation and provides me my bread and butter.

The next law which I respect, adheres and keep ranting about is "Murphy's Law".
This law states - Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

I find murphy's law the most significant and the one that drives me nuts at times have you ever noticed the day you are late to work the bus is always early and so is your boss worst is, he is looking for you.
The coin that flips always fall on the farthest most edge under the table.
Things sudddenly stops working the moment you are confident and assured to show it to your boss and prove you made it work. The research you have been doing since long has been done and even published though you did all the backgoround literature survey.

It happens, omnipresence of this law is in our day to day and still we keep ignoring it.
Nothing is as easy as it looks and if everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something and obviously it will take longer than you think.
If you think this law is overly pessimistic than you belong to different school of thought and I am more than happy to argue... I am sure for me this law enables us to make you little more cautious, smile and still be happy as you atleast have something to say... when your working stuff suddenly stop working and you are about to show it to your manager or he is right in front of you - ( Oop's murphy law is in action now).
OK now
Smile... tomorrow will be worse - no not me it is murphy's philosphy !!!!! (Though I am hoping this tomorrow never comes)

Blogging!!!!

Blog by wikipedia means -> A blog (an abridgment of the term web log) is a website, usually maintained by an individual, with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events.

Someone told me blogging shouldn't be writing a freaking dairy!!!, and he is a blogger too, as blogging is in rave and there are all sought of people dabbling into it so am I, not that I realise everyone is getting into it so should I. I have been writing my dairies from the day I remember my existence.
ok, I know my english sucks, but still I believe language should be a medium to convey what you are thinking. I see blogging as sharing one's experience, your opinion that can be on anything, bookmarking anything you feel and can be shared.

Take away from blogging -> ok I have stopped measuring things in terms of gains and loses, for it is just pleasure and fun that drives me now.

If you want share how your day goes, what you think , your random thoughts, your scribbles, lesson and if it is fun to you and others. sharing and caring is always good!!! and for those it is not - please ignore.
I write blog to pen down all the thoughts good or bad, I pen down my mistakes so that I keep a tab on when I do it again and it is ok to let the world know if they are interested and if they are not again we should learn to ignore and forget, I use it be in touch with people I always want to be, it is just a scribbling...and cann't be defined.

I have seen blogs on cooking, biking what not... it is ok to write sometime and let the world know what you feel isn't it... There will definitely be someone, sometime somewhere sitting out there who likes to know what you feel, like or dislike.
It is fun to scribble it helps :)... If there is no one interested again learn to forget, forgive and ignore (sometimes these 3 L's are one of the keys to remain happy) .

Keep Scribbling!!!!!!!

Networking!!!!

"It is all about people, who you know, it is about networking, it is about being nice to people and to know them for a purpose".
I joined a new company last summers of 2007, excited with new heavenly laid back place where I am going to spend next three months.
A very good old friend of mine offered me a ride from the hotel to the company for orientation though the company was walking distance from the hotel and company has a shuttle too to add more to I always want to walk and know my ways if the place is new... By nature I hate dependency, I like to explore, rather depending on anyone. I would love to get tired,pay, crib still be on my own and explore, I never like a easy way out... as I have got so much used to the turns... that I have started loving them. I guess that is why people go hiking right!!! as they don't like the straight roads :)... I belong to that category.

Coming back to the reason I started writing this post.
On his way to the company and my very first day, he asked me to make contacts.
I guess who ever enters in this very professional world this is the mantra "Networking" in short to make contacts so that you can use them at your disposal.
You have an interview and you mostly write a thankyou email, have you ever noticed if it has made any difference... If you had a good interview and there is requirement they themself will welcome and will be overwhelminng to contact you and will lure with the positive points of being part of that team. If you did a remarkable job in an internship anyways you will be remembered by those set of people whom you got a chance to work with.

That friend of mine asked me to take lunch outside and meet new people specially manager or may be full times ( I was interning - FYI) ... afcourse his intentions was sane!!! and for sure it made sense.It seems like "It's not what you know but who you know that makes the difference".
Initially I seemed pretty convinced :) but it was the first day... of a fun and relaxing internship, it doesn't mean i didn't want to work or get a full time job there.Second day I made friends who all were there for the same purpose - FUN!!!! :)
so rather going out to lunch and talking to people who had good means to coming to work and were full times. I chose a house away from the company and in hub of the city daily walked a bit (Atleast some exercise in my outgoing schedule). Stepped on the bus where I can spend most of the time talking on phone,reading stuff or sight seeing rather sitting with someone and knowing more what he do,smile and sound like it was very interesting...

No, I couldn't turn that internship into full time but I am not sure if I chose the other path I would have got something out of it but I made life long friends and awesome memories of that place... where I won't be able to land again, as now I am working for a different company and may be work in the same for most of my professional time.
Afcourse the friends I made are my contacts forever... and I am theirs for sure those lunches, those surfing times, those hangouts, those water dives, those potlucks, those movies have lovely memories.
If I would have really understood what he meant and made myself busy most of the time doing so, I would have not have one friend but just contacts :) ...

Still the people I worked with I am in touch and I guess will always be, if that is networking I am belong to a world which is round.. you never know you end up meeting them again and then we are friends AHH!!! not a contact...

Now here I am next summer, I get invites of icecream social and lot of networking event, beer bash ... So are you joining in!! may be you end up making a friend not just a contact...

Geeta...

Every morning when I get up at home...

A smiling beautiful face a special person comes right in front of me. This also depicts to me how a simple smile can change the beauty of any normal countenance. No this person is not my mother.

My mother would always have a problem if I slept 1 hour more than I should or I have not been helping her in the household. Else I normally hear her talking to my siblings about the daily problems as if our world is full of problems and every day is a long day.

I am talking about a person who always meet me with a greeting smile and say ... "Didi chai bana do ya didi uth jao varna biwi ji datengi ab". I have rarely seen a person so happy then her.

I am 26 turning 27 soon, my face loooks dull and I smile occasionally though I have a god who always smiles on me and I know is sitting up there for me. He has given me good education, and just too caring and protective family, above all great infact GREATEST set of friends one can have and a very protective, adorable life partner. I have got a chance to work in world first companies... who are pioneers or rulers in their own fields... here I am not talking about the good things... :) i have. I still have dark eyes, my face always look very dull and when I smile I think I m doing a great favor on me, if i have pictures with a smile i would say it is a great picture of me, I feel jealous of the people for small small things they have.

I feel I am not happy as I just have too many problems...If I start writing for what I am, I am sure there is no end to my or infact most of our thanklessness for whatever god has given to us.

I am talking about a lady who is younger than me may be 22 years, and has three daughters.
I am talking here of "Geeta" her day starts early morning at 4:00 AM and she doesn't gets weekends off!!!!! and if she takes off, so many people will ask for her wellness not at all because she is good human or she should be fine. They want that there house doesn't remain messy as she won't be able to take care of it on those days when she is not able to make it.

She wakes up her kids, she would make breakfast and lunch for them as she won't be back before the day is over.Then she starts her daily chores like going from one great family having a grand house and they want it prim and proper.
She will come to my place and she will be eager to talk to me, as i am the one who would listen to her stories, about her kids.I asked who is her daughters in those, she told me whoever is the best in the lot is her daughter. She would tell me what sarees she likes to wear, and what kind of earring she would wear, and her husband is world greatest husband. When me and my mother would fight she would advice me to keep things with myself as this is family matter, I shouldn't be discussing it with my friends. As she also knows that makes my mother more mad.Her face is always adorn with a wide smile and from her perspective her life seems perfect... :)

She is a housemaid, who works at my house and 4 other houses to make her living and have food for her kids and for her greatest husband.She smiles on almost everything even if work was more, she is too lean and I juggle to get lean while paying huge bills in the gym.

She comes early in the morning to every house as well in the evening to clean the dishes and does the same for other houses too.

She is one real happy soul on this huge planet earth.
I adore her for this, and I learn every bit of it from her. I came to know that the true way to render ourselves happy is to love our work and find in it our pleasure.

Although this doesn't makes me give up on my whims and luxuries, I still want to drive the best and talk on the phone which is the best and still want to throw my tantrums on those who entertain it. The only thing I have stopped doing is complaining, cribbing and I am grateful to him for everything he has bestowed upon me, as Geeta is.... :) .

As some one rightly said "We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same".